” When one of the parents says to do something, this frequently does not carry as much weight as a list of rules written up and posted on the fridge. A certain kind of mind likes abstract law. When the law comes from nowhere, i.e. written rules, the person following the rule can be very scrupulous and tidy-minded about obeying it, and yet not really be obeying anyone but himself – certainly not obeying the person who made the rules, the parent. This is veneered obedience “with the look of real wood”!
Certain personalities like things in straight little rows. When such a personality is born into a home, life will be more pleasant later on, at least in some resects. The parent who does not have to constantly get after a child to make his bed or pick up his shoes has fewer daily tasks to hassle with. But this behavior on the part of the child is not necessarily true obedience; it may sometimes be as willful and stubborn as outright defiance or rebellion. Outward obedience can be passive rebellion. True obedience is a matter of the heart.”
Lee Said:
on May 2, 2011 at 2:09 pm
I have read this! Where though? Tedd Tripp?
katharinesavage Said:
on May 2, 2011 at 4:23 pm
Doug Wilson